Last week I was at an event in Minneapolis with friends. I sat outside a circle of women as they were eating their lunch - some of the women I knew, some I didn't. A friend of theirs came over, disgusted about a conversation she had just had on the phone with her husband. Now...as women, I think it's fair to say we have all been there. We've all felt that annoyance with our spouse when we don't agree, or communication has failed, or messages have been mixed up. But what was said next is not okay.
One of the women in the group (not sure if she's married) made the comment, "Oh...he's like one of your children, eh?". NO LADIES!!! NO!!!! :(
One of the other women's husband (whom I know and respect very much) happen to stop in the conversation to grab his food. He heard the comment, and his reply was, "Hmm...I don't think I've ever heard my wife say that about me...."
Ladies (and gentlemen)...Marriage is about RESPECT! When your spouse does not FEEL respected, that's when troubles happen. Thomas and I have learned this first-hand, and it is something we have worked to correct in our own marriage. YEP...I used to be one of those women who would joke about my husband "being like one of the kids"...but not any more. That is not a fair statement. Yes, we can disagree on things, or not understand what the other was trying to say or convey, but that is no reason to call them our child. He deserved to feel like I'm talking to him like an adult.
I know people get tired of hearing the passage - especially in our "Women Power" and "Women's Rights" day-and-age. But Scripture (the Bible) tells us in Ephesians 5:22-33, some of the most important words about relationships: "Wives, submit (respect) to your husbands, as to the Lord...." But the husband has the HARDEST job ever: "Husbands, Love your wives AS CHRIST LOVED THE CHURCH, AND GAVE HIMSELF UP FOR HER!" YIKES!!!! That's sacrifice, that's dying to self, that's Christ giving His WHOLE SELF to the World Church - Crucifixion on the Cross at Calvary!
I have found the more I make the choice to respect my husband, and look at him not as a child, but as my hero and leader and protector - the easier it is to be in awe of him and speak well of him to others. And in my heart, I love him more and more.
Please - friends! It's not just us as couples - it's also the children we are raising. The better that we as couples get along, the less broken-homes that children will have to grow up in, and the better they will be as a spouse in their future.
Be Encouraged! We can speak well of one another, and respect the blessings that God has put in our lives - starting with our Spouse! BE ENCOURAGED! Happy Thursday! :)